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May 20 Sophie's tattoo.......When Soph turned 18, she said she wanted to get a tattoo, so I said that I would pay for one for her, when she was ready.
So, last week, she plucked up the courage to go and get it booked in!!!
 She had found a design on 'tinternet, and asked the chap if he could do it. No probs!!!!!
So I had to go with her, as she is a wuss!
 With it being on her foot, it was VERY painful, more than she imagined, and she was trying so hard not to move her foot!
Thought she was going to pass out with the pain,
 Anyway, it was well worth it, as it has turned out really nice, and she is happy with it..........
    May 11 And so the journey begins..............Dan's journey began at 530am, this morning, as he set off to Bordon for phase 2 of his training. He was driving down, and had to be there for 12pm, so you can imagine my worry with such a long journey on his own!! Anyway, he arrived safe and sound just before 12, Our journey, as a family, began at 1030am, as we set off for Dad's funeral...... Leah didn't feel able to go, and said she thought she would be better off going to school, giving herself something to think about, and Soph couldn't go, as she was too distraught when she went to Mum's funeral, so she stayed at Jo's, to look after the baby, with Tom and Grace. Hannah came with us. It was a very difficult time, but, thankfully, as Dad was not a religious man, the service was quite short, followed by his burial, and we were back home within the hour. When making arrangements, we were asked if there was a song that we wanted playing for Dad......this got us stumped, but as most of his CD collection was of The Beatles, then it was only right to choose one of their songs, but which one!!??? After a lot of searching, as soon as I heard it, I knew I had found the perfect one......I listened to the words as though it was Dad singing it to Mum, as he missed her so much, and just wanted to be with her again, and it made so much sense, even one of our relatives commented on it afterwards, and said that we couldn't have found a song more appropriate.............................
May 06 So many emotions...........Talk about an emotional rollercoaster!!!!!!
18th April, my sister gave birth, eventually, to a beautiful little girl.
21st April, my Sophie turned 18.
24th April, Dan had his passing out parade.
25th April, sophie's birthday party.
 3rd May, my Dad suddenly passed away......no warning......no inkling......
 Dad had been "unwell" for about 2 months, but nothing definate, just lots of different things: nothing to suggest that his days were numbered!
He had been having tests done, to try and establish the cause of his ailments, and to try and determine why his legs had filled with so much fluid, that they were literally leaking, to the point that a nurse had to come in on a daily basis to change the dressings, but nothing specific was given to the cause.
He had also had an ECG, endoscopy, colonoscopy, numerous blood tests, but nothing was said to my Dad or my Sister, who was his first point of contact.
Anyway, last Tuesday, Dad rang Paul, my brother-in-law, and said that he didn't want to worry my sister, but he had had a fall, and could Paul go over.
When Paul got there, although Dad hadn't hurt himself, he was in a bad state, as the nurse hadn't turned up the day before, so his bandages were saturated and hanging off, and his legs were looking infected!
So Paul got onto the GP surgery, demanding that a nurse come out and that Dads GP come too, as we wanted some answer's because Dad wasn't getting any better, but we weren't being told anything.
The nurse turned up, and was shocked that nobody had been the day before, as Dad was on the list to get daily visits! As she changed his bandages,, when Dad managed to stand up, Paul noticed some really nasty pressure sores on the back of Dads thighs, and bottom.
Dad has been suffering from excrutiating back pain for about 6 weeks, and has barely been mobile, to which the GP has only been prescribing painkillers!!!
Anyway, the GP eventually turned up, and although he is Dads GP, it was a different doctor that has been treating him, so this GP didn't really know Dad.
But on dads records, it said that the results from the ECG, over a month ago, showed that Dad was suffering from heart failure, and that one of the blood tests had confirmed this, BUT, at no point had any of this information been given to Dad or Jo!!!!
Paul was fuming, and the GP was taken aback that we didn't know any of this.
After a lot of apologising, he arranged for Dad to be taken into hospital, for further tests and observations, to try and get Dad sorted, once and for all!!
Still, no indication that Dad was so ill.
On Friday, Dad had another ECG and it didn't show anything abnormal. So the doctors got together, to discuss a plan of action, on how best to get Dad well enough to come home, and they would get started on this after the bank holiday.....
Sunday morning, my brothr-in-law rang me at 730am, and said they had just received a phonecall from the hospital, to say Dad had had a cardiac arrest, and could they come over to the hospital. So I went to my sisters, to sit with the kids.
We were a bit worried at this, but nothing could prepare us for the news that he had already passed away, sometime during the night!!!
He only went in for tests and observation, then to be told that he was gone........it's very hard to take in!!
I wasn't close to my Dad, we have always clashed, and since Mum died, we drifted further apart, but he's still my Dad, and I can't believe that he has gone.
He was due to move in with Jo and Paul in a few weeks, they are building an extension specially for him, and it's 3 weeks from being finished! He was so looking forward to moving in, as he was very lonley and has not adapted since Mum passed, but he won't get to see the finished extension.
He never got to see the DVD from Dan's passing out parade, either, which he wanted to see, as he was upset that he wasn't well enough to go to the parade.
So, as you can imagine, we are still in a daze, and it was very surreal talking to the undertaker, making arrangements for a man that wasn't supposed to go anywhere yet!!!!
Even the doctors were shocked that he had passed away so quickly.
His death certificate stated that it was a pulminory embolism that was the cause of death, and heart failure was secondary. So the one comfort from this, is that Dad wouldn't have known anything about it, it would have happened so quick in his sleep.
The funeral is on Monday, which is going to be very difficult.
And Dan goes to Bordon on Monday, too, so that is another wrench for me......
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